1. Is this information any of my damn business?


2. Am I breaking an explicit or assumed understanding of confidentiality?


3. Does my silence undermine the health and well being of my communities, feres, hearth-kin, friends and/or myself, or does it nourish us all?


4. What ego investments do I have in sharing or not sharing this information?


5. Am I working from a place of open heartedness and compassion?


6. Was I an actual witness of or a participant in the particular topic currently being discussed?


7. If not, who are my sources of information?


8. Have I checked those sources out to the best of my ability?


9. Am I remembering to share my sources for any material that I choose to  pass along to other folks? If I am not sharing my sources, why not?


10. Am I fully willing to accept the consequences of choosing to share or not to share this information?


11. Does sharing or not sharing this information enhance my own life; spiritual, physical, mental, etc.?


12. Does sharing or not sharing this information enhance my relationships with my feres, hearth-kin, clan, tradition, world?


13. Does sharing or not sharing this information enhance my relationship with the Mysterious Ones, the Ancestors and other Spirit Allies?


  1. 14.Does sharing or not sharing this information enhance my commitments to the nurturing and tending of the emerging Cultures of Beauty, Balance and Delight?





I dare to see with Clear Eyes

and an Open Heart!

Some of Donald’s

Gossip Guidelines for Himself


Donald L. Engstrom-Reese

©2010